Mornings don’t have a great rap, and no wonder. We’re usually so busy dragging ourselves out of bed, feeding the kids and getting them ready, looking for our presentation folder, and trying to do something about the hair we didn’t have time to style, it feels like we can’t find a spare second to cultivate peace and serenity.
But although it doesn’t feel that way, having a crazy morning is actually a choice. This is great news, because it means you can also choose to overcome the hecticness and stress, and replace them with something much better: happiness and love. Here’s how.
Wake Up a Little Earlier Than You Need To
One of the easiest ways to feel less stressed in the morning is to create more time, more wiggle room. Most people balk at the idea of waking up earlier, but it’s easy enough to accomplish if you take two steps:
- Get up at a regular time, even on the weekends (where possible). This will put your body into a rhythm and you will start to wake up naturally much more easily.
- Go to bed a little earlier. Most people balk even more about losing their evening Me Time, but transferring a bit of that time to the morning can immeasurably improve your day.
Choose a Morning Stress Relief Routine
Use part of your newfound time for a you-centered stress-relief routine. Take a cue from Stress Free Mama and choose a morning routine that will relax you and fill you with centering energy. She suggests the following:
- Journaling
- Stretching
- Meditation
- Singing
- Self-Massage
… and others. Whatever you choose, try to pick something that truly makes you feel better. Going after another aspirational activity because you “should” is not the point of this exercise.
Keep a Level Voice
Raised voices adds a lot of pressure to your morning. In fact, being an angry mama can make your kids feel bad and make you feel guilty. Instead, find other ways to get what you want. Explain your motivations to your kids, remove privileges if they consistently disobey you or “forget” to follow household rules, praise good behavior and where possible, remember that kids are kids and they just aren’t as conscientious as adults. While you may not succeed every time, keeping yelling out of your home will impact every part of your day, not just mornings.
Find the Fun in Mornings
If you know where to look, mornings can actually be fulfilling and fun. Perhaps your younger daughter loves the sound of the birds. Maybe your older son is on the track team and would enjoy an early jog with you. There are special things the morning offers – sunrise, cool air, hot tea, other family members asleep – so make the effort to look for and appreciate them.
Yeah, mornings are tough. It’s best to just accept it. But with these tips, you can consciously tweak your AM routines to maximize calmness and tranquility. Once you do, you’ll likely find that your entire day becomes easier, smoother and more centered. All thanks to your morning routine.
Alicia
Dr. Mark’s-
Thank you so much for all that you do on MedCircle and here on your website as well. I am a 20 yo F in college and my family has a history of BPD, NPD, OCD, among other things.
I have been previously diagnosed with an ED, depression, anxiety, OCD, and was put on Zoloft after receiving treatment at a center and later regular therapy. I’ve been on Zoloft for years, but lately have been feeling like nothing seems to help me and everything is hopeless. I’m really not sure why this is happening and am increasingly afraid that the doctors have missed a diagnosis of BPD or bipolar, or a mix of both perhaps(my sister also has BPD, as does my mother and her sister).
I fear that as I get older my mania, episodes, and depression is only becoming more frequent. This has begun to really interfere with my interpersonal relationships as well as my schooling and my confidence to live life free of self-doubt and constant anxiety.
I would love to receive guidance or counseling from you, but it does say that you are not accepting new clients at this time. What do you suggest that I do?
Thank you for your time and I hope to hear back,
Alicia
Suzanne
Dear Dr Marks
Greetings from London!
I very much enjoy your YouTube videos.
I would like to subscribe to your emails but unable to locate your correct one.
Hopefully you will put my email address to your list.
Thank you in advance,
Suzanne
Dr. Tracey Marks
Hi Suzanne. Thanks for watching the videos, I’m glad they are helpful. Here’s the link to my email sign up https://dr-tracey-marks.ck.page/a8f18724c6
I can add you manually, but it works better if you “voluntarily” sign up.?
Suzanne
Thank you so much for replying for my email from London.
I just love all your coaching.
I did signed up just now so I am looking forward to receive all your excellent professional advises.
Kind regards
Suzanne
Funua
You’re an excellent and caring human being and professional!
Dr. Tracey Marks
Thanks so much Funua!???
MONICA MCCARTER
Dr. Marks this is just the information I need right now. I’m in the 50+ club and I am trying to reinvent myself and stay encouraged. Thank you for sharing, Please keep it coming.
Dr. Tracey Marks
So glad Monica. That’s a great club to be in! ? I plan to do more text only posts.