There’s a saying, “If you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything at all.” There is merit to this statement and can work well in casual relationships. But with people who are close to you, if you often have little to say about their accomplishments, you can fall short of being a supportive […]
What’s Wrong With Being Emotionally Unavailable?
The short answer is nothing, if you don’t want to have close relationships. There are people who really are content to live as an island. But most people aren’t built this way. The usual scenario I see is the person who spends their young adulthood (20’s and 30’s) charging forward with their career, with limited […]
Chronic Terminal Illness, When Do You Say Goodbye?
Dealing with a chronic illness is difficult on many levels. But how do you handle someone having a terminal illness that lingers on? Let’s look at Judy Judy’s mom has a medical illness that was diagnosed when Judy was a teenager. Her mom was in and out of the hospital for years then seemed to […]
Senior Adults Are Still Having Sex
A survey out of the University of Chicago conducted by Dr. Stacy Lindau found that one third of individuals aged 64-75 are having sex at least once a week. This survey was administered to 3005 older people who were divided into 3 groups of roughly one thousand each. The three age groups were 57-64, 65-74 […]
Are You a Knight?
Are you someone’s knight in shinning armor rescuing damsels in distress? This can be an exhilarating feeling for some men who are attracted to women who need their help. It feels good to be needed and in general there is nothing wrong with wanting to help others. However, the kind of help delivered by the […]
Bad Relationships as a Repetition of the Familiar
Our relationship with our parents, particularly the opposite sex parent, significantly influences how we choose our companions. It’s commonly said that women marry their fathers and men marry their mothers. There is a lot of truth to this. When a person has a bad experience with their parent such as emotional absence or constant criticism, […]