http://markspsychiatry.com/terminal-illness-say-goodbye/ Atlanta Psychiatrist and Psychotherapist Thu, 07 Apr 2011 05:07:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://markspsychiatry.com/terminal-illness-say-goodbye/comment-page-1/#comment-171 Michael Shaffran Mon, 09 Feb 2009 05:16:01 +0000 http://markspsychiatry.com/terminal-illness-say-goodbye/#comment-171 I agree with the author that Judy could not say goodbye as it was unpredictable. Her mother was in and out of the hospital. Furthermore, she needed to vent her anger and resentment, which she did not know how to do.Her kindness was in a way a long goodbye but as was stated, she short changed herself. I would add that a grieving process or some ritual goodbye, not only for mom's death but her grief over never really having had a mother--not there for milestones,etc.--would benefit her a great deal. Michael Shaffran,LCSW, Morro Bay,CA I agree with the author that Judy could not say goodbye as it was unpredictable. Her mother was in and out of the hospital. Furthermore, she needed to vent her anger and resentment, which she did not know how to do.Her kindness was in a way a long goodbye but as was stated, she short changed herself.
I would add that a grieving process or some ritual goodbye, not only for mom’s death but her grief over never really having had a mother–not there for milestones,etc.–would benefit her a great deal.
Michael Shaffran,LCSW, Morro Bay,CA

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